kendisinin de kitapta bahsettiği " hetoroseksüel bir feminist kadının erkek partneri ile yaşadığı cinsel alandaki özgürlük, hayır deme hakkı üzerine yazılmış makale bulamazsınız ama bu sıkıntıları yaşayan feminist kadınlar vardı ama kimse bahsetmedi" gibi durumları ve buna benzer örnekleri anlatarak hayat pratiğinin içinden anlatmaya çalışması feminizmi benim için değerli kılıyor kitaplarını ve kendisini. From chapter six, Women who fail at loving, Hooks questions the gender rhetoric in books like John Gray’s Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, where he “ reinscribes and overvalues” the same stereotypes that feminist scholarships has toiled to disapprove. The idea she explores is critical to current debates questioning the place of love in feminism, the bias in feminist ideologies, cultural perception of feminism, and male allyship in feminist movements. According to the author, feminism stops at the bedroom door because of the innate teachings that label men as more patriarchal when they conceal their emotions.

I admit that only once I started focusing on prioritizing and improving myself did I attract the right person into my life. Another great wisdom gift that women offer to those who have not yet discovered its pleasures is the wisdom that it is better to know the joy of dancing in a circle of love than to dance alone.hooks agrees with Fromm that love is an art form, "an action informed by care, respect, knowledge, and responsibility. It just seems…like a huge oversight, and kind of sloppy, to be writing hundreds of pages on love without ever concretely defining what it means to her. And this conversation guides us--mothers, daughters, friends, and lovers -- on one of our most life-affirming journeys. My one edit is that her book exists in this binary, gendered world, and seems to exclude trans and nonbinary people.

I would def recommend people read this but I’m excited to read All About Love bc I think that’s the one everyone really loves.It is, however, the ideal choice for women who have always silently wondered why intimacy and true fulfillment appear to be more fantasies than realities.