Since this is a vast topic, I also really appreciate Jancee offered additional resources and names of the subject matter experts on sub-topics. This book-length intervention tackles the whole spectrum of marital stressors, including dishwasher disagreement, financial infidelity, and weekend activity management.

The next step is to work with a professional who can provide a safe and comfortable space to work through these struggles. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy and Cookie Statement and Your California Privacy Rights. I am always trying to see if he will step up and help out with the household chores, but he seems to enjoy floating around in a happy single-guy bubble on weekends.It’s more that a million little pieces of information are passed to women via a social pipeline—information that is generally not passed to men. Our situation is not unique: 67 percent of couples see their marital satisfaction plummet after having a baby. Jancee suggests that instead of arguing in front of children, parents should try to model respectful conflict resolution, such as taking a break to calm down and then coming back to the issue with a solution-focused approach.

However, I believe that the book will be helpful to any new parents or soon-to-be new parents, as it outlines actionable strategies on how to prepare for and manage the flow of work that comes with having a new person enter your family. For example, an Ohio State University study shows that "By the time [a] baby reaches nine months, the women had picked up an average of 37 hours of childcare and housework per week, while the men did 24 hours, even as both parents clocked the same number of hours at work.And, as Dunn’s book depicts, they creep into relationships with ferocious veracity after babies are born, when all of our defenses are down (i. Until baby number two arrived, and suddenly there were double the diapers, messes, and mouths to feed. I discovered all kinds of ways that Tom showed he cared about me — to the point where it became my new confirmation bias.

I know what it’s like to experience challenging, high-risk pregnancies, difficult labours, and postpartum struggles.

Here’s what I know for sure: motherhood is quite likely the hardest transition you’ll ever go through. If your husband has a better relationship with his phone than he does with his baby, you need to hit him with this book--and then ask him to read it. And unless she’s willing to instruct ( and he’s willing to be instructed, and the instruction is more worthwhile than just doing it herself) it’s easy to slip into an arrangement in which moms shoulder the bulk of the childcare and housework. This process happens little by little so let’s give you credit for already taking those first steps.