Not gross-out humor or excessive erotica at all, this book really does try to help couples learn patience, comfort, and vulnerability in a relationship. Right off the bat, Walsh displays her talent for evoking rich, palpable settings, and she continues to do so throughout the memoir, drawing full, memorable pictures of childhood homes in Long Island, sketchy college apartments in Buffalo, and airy, open New Mexico kitchens bathed in sunlight. Whether you’re a foodie or a fan of lesbian memoirs, or you just like good writing telling a story well, I would definitely recommend Licking the Spoon and I hope to read more from Candace Walsh! In addition to engaging in some light body shaming and advice almost no sex columnist would find healthy or wise, the entire book is written exclusively for heterosexual couples, and seems to acknowledge only male/female couplings, assuming that anyone who needed to be able to master the title skill would be a straight man. But it's true that not much shows Abelard iconoclasm, but he is neither dogmatic, his adherence to the rules on the ship is for different reasons.

This is a lot of what Walsh’s journey is about, actually: that convoluted route to a person and a life that is healthy, and good, and that feels right for you.It actually points out that even if couples have been together for a long time, there still may be some unsaid thoughts or feelings between them because of fear, uncomfortable feelings, or timid reluctance (among other factors). I remember one time I was playing Helter Skelter through my Champ 12 and I heard voices coming from the speaker praying the rosary.

I found the explanation of her decision to exclusively pursue women as romantic and sexual partners fascinating. Argenta definitely should have a bit of dogmatic and iconoclast, like Idira has Heretic and Dogmatic. Even Heresy can be positively motivated (in fact, the game outright lets you do this) and the game tries to tempt your heresy, some of the time at least, not with "being evil for evil sake" (some of the time) but rather "Would you be willing to do this bad thing, if it means you can help more?I bet there were some straight people who picked up this book who were surprised to find out how much queer content was in it. I found this exclusionary, and the immaturity level of the book on the whole kept the passing attempts at humor from landing. Anyway, I always appreciate hearing stories about women’s sexual identity that have a different narrative other than I’ve-known-since-I-was-five-and-have-always-been-100%-lesbian. Indeed, for most of the book Walsh dates men, although there are hints of her Sapphic inclinations throughout.