But, if you can’t maintain a state of Zen (which is hard even without family triggers), just do your best. Free yourself and others from the expectation of what Christmas with family should feel like, and see it for what it is without the need to fix or change anything. Sometimes radical acceptance takes the burden off your shoulders and helps you enjoy the little moments instead of hyper-focusing on all that’s gone wrong. In the book “The Paradox of Choice” by psychologist Barry Schwartz, he makes the case that ‘settling’ for ‘good enough’ is actually far more satisfying than constantly searching for ‘best’. For some people, working a nine to five job and coming home to a family may be ‘mediocre’ on a grand scale - yet still extremely satisfying by their own standards.

The book tries to arrange the same old self help advice around 'the law of vibration' and 'the law of attraction'. Firstly the law of vibration is all well and good, we are all vibrating. Nothing in the universe is ever still, I'm on board with that. However, Vex King goes on to say how our own vibrations our thoughts, our mood and even the food we eat can impact the universe around us. Which brings us onto 'the law of attraction' which states that if you want something, then by focusing on it and visualising it the "universe will rearrange itself for you" and "the universe will always support you". She goes on to use the example of a new car. Want a new car? Then focus on it and visualise it really carefully and you will get the new car! Of course there is something in the fact that if you spend enough time thinking and wanting something eventually your behaviours will change and align to your goal and this will of course help in achieving it. But that is very different from the view that the universe is bending to your desires. What happens if you dont achieve your goal? you can't afford a new car say. Does that mean then the unvierse is ignoring you? The universe and cosmic powers have decided you are unfit or not worthy of the car? That's sad. Derren Brown's book 'Happy' goes into the damage that these views can have. The fact is that if you want to ‘unleash your greatness’ you need to consistently work hard and make sacrifices, and unfortunately this doesn’t always feel good. Nobody is motivated to go for their scheduled run every single time, and even during the runs that they are motived for, it’s still not a ‘feel good’ experience. Most of the time you’re trying to convince yourself why you should keep enduring the pain and you do it for the satisfaction and progress towards your goals. A must read if you are seeking to elevate your relationships and your life.' – Yung Pueblo, author of InwardEssential reading for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of themselves and their relationships. Goods that by reason of their nature, cannot be returned - (Items such as underwear, where the 'hygiene patch' has been removed, or cosmetics where the seal has been broken).

The first is that mediocrity is subjective, and so not only does the notion vary from person to person but can also change in meaning for the individual themselves. A BMW 3 Series may seem like a luxury for a 17-year-old yet mediocre for a 60-year-old. The vague advice of telling somebody not to settle for mediocrity leaves them in a continuous state of dissatisfaction and ingratitude as the standard for mediocrity is never declared. Journaling is your avenue to emotional literacy . There is no greater self-help book than the one you write about yourself.' Vex King Are you ready to rewrite your story? Prepare to go on a journey of self-exploration with No.1 Sunday Times bestselling author of Good Vibes, Good Life and Healing is the New High, Vex King and social media star, Kaushal, as the husband and wife duo come together on their first ever joint project, The Greatest Self-Help Book, a journal dedicated to you. Filled with practical activities, exercises and visual prompts for you to practise meaningful mindfulness, this fully illustrated, interactive journal w ill help you become the best version of yourself. For more in Vex King is the Number 1 Sunday Times Bestselling author of Good Vibes, Good Life, and Healing is the New High. He is also a social media content creator and mind coach. He experienced many challenges when he was growing up: his father died when Vex was just a baby, his family were often homeless and he grew up in troubled neighbourhoods where he regularly experienced violence and racism. Despite this, Vex successfully turned his whole life around and is now leading a revolution for the next generation of spiritual seekers.

Christmas Gifts

Money is readily available to everyone and the distance between you and money is determined only by your attitudes towards it" Self-love is the balance between accepting yourself as you are while knowing you deserve better, and then working towards it.” Vex will carry you into a whole new understanding about what human love can be and how living it will not only electrify your life but raise our world too.' Despite its magical promises, Christmas can also be a time of stress and anxiety for families with strained relationships and those estranged from their homes. For many who have distanced themselves from family to heal, there’s a fear that a get-together or isolation from family events will trigger a downward spiral and unravel all the work you’ve done. But whether you’re returning to dysfunctional dynamics that drove you far from your hometown, or celebrating the season solo, here are five ways to make it out unscathed. Good vibes, good life. If you have read any self help book before then don't bother with this one. It adds nothing new and you will have heard it all before, well the good bits.