An absolute corker - tender, sexy and weird. I can't wait to see what she writes next -- Michelle Thomas It's LOL, ever-so-relatable and will also have you weeping into a snotty tissue. Love, love, love * Cosmopolitan * Westermann S, Rief W, Euteneuer F, Kohlman S. Social exclusion and shame in obesity. Eat Behav. 2015;17:74-6. doi:10.1016/j.eatbeh.2015.01.001 In this profoundly moving and intricately woven novel, the narrator encounters Shino, a young waitress at a nearby restaurant near his university. One night, fueled by liquid courage, he musters the courage to approach her. She agrees to meet him again the following evening, but he hesitates to divulge the complexities of his life. Eventually, Shino learns of the heart-wrenching tragedies that have plagued his family—two siblings who took their own lives, two who vanished, and one who faces a handicap. The fear of tainted blood haunts him, and he grapples with his very existence.

Jas tries to rekindle her relationship with her family after her daughter's birth but things were never the same again. Her failed relationships, marriages and bad decisions were what made her the strong woman that she is now. When her sister Robina commits suicide, she promises to help women who are pushed in to forced marriages. Her organization Karma Nirvana has been assisting thousands of women ever since. Jas's story is not one of victimization but is of survival. I could never understand her mother's cold behaviour, about the fact that parents can be so ruthless in the name of religion and honour. if mathilda were to have a song, it’ll undoubtedly be harry styles’ famous “matilda”. that’s it. that’s the verdict. beep. It Didn’t Start with You evidences with depth and clarity that whil st the person who initially experienced trauma might have died or the ir story forgotten, the associate d memories, and feelings , might still be adopted by future generations – embedded in our genetic makeup and cognitive abilities - playing a far greater role than previously thought. Michele Filgate, whilst still an undergraduate at university, began an essay about her stepfather’s abuse but only finished it a decade later — needing the time to work out what she actually wanted to talk about — the effect of the abuse on the relationship with her mother. Upon publication it went viral and was shared by notable authors including Rebecca Solnit. There was a clear need for this type of conversation to be had — and the appetite of writers to share their stories was not exactly limited. An anthology was born showcasing a collection of essays and stories that looked at a starkly exposed view of our relationships with our mothers.

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Truly captivating, blisteringly funny, so clever and perceptive and beautifully written. It made me want to voicenote all my friends immediately. I loved it! -- Lauren Bravo Intelligent, moving and darkly comic . . . taking us deftly from serious explorations of trauma and consent to riotously funny scenes of modern life'

It's, of course, a tough read, challenging, with very emotional passages (e.g. the horrific suicide of her sister following years of domestic abuse -a reminder that, women from India and the Middle-East are three times more likely to commit suicide than their White counterparts...) but absolutely necessary to fully understand the impact of forced marriages. She escaped such a fate, but how many didn't and still don't?What My Mother and I Don’t Talk About: Fifteen Writers Break The Silence (Non-fiction) by Michele Filgate

The two aspects of shame I have experienced, the one negative and exiling, the other positive and humbling, are core to the human experience. Shame tears us apart; and shame allows for compassion and contrition. Paul understood this. As do the following writers.

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For anyone who’s ever grappled with shame and self-worth or felt a little lost in life, allow What A Shameto hit you in the feels and bring you home to yourself (cue the book hangover). The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Adversity (Non-fiction) by Nadine Burke Harris A book that simultaneously punches you in the gut and makes you snort with laughter. It's beautifully raw in its delivery. A glorious new talent has arrived -- Emma Gannon Dazzling . . . By turns funny, sharp, raw and overwhelming, this is o ne of those novels where you think you are exploring someone else's pain, only to realise you are actually exploring your own -- Read of the Week * Heat *

Cibich M, Woodyatt L, Wenzel M. Moving beyond "shame is bad": How a functional emotion can become problematic. Soc Personal Psychol Compass. 2016;10(9):471-483. doi:10.1111/spc3.12263 Dazzling . . . one of those novels where you think you’re exploring someone else’s pain, only to realise you’re exploring your own’This could so easily be a ‘poor me’ or ‘my crap life’ autobiography but it’s not. It’s much more a tale of survival, hope and determination to make a difference. It’s not about looking for sympathy or punishing those who’ve done her wrong – instead it’s much more about showing that there’s still a lot of honour crime going on in the UK and that just because we’re surrounded with positive images of British Asian life, it doesn’t mean that all of the horrors of the old ways have gone away. It’s also a way for Sanghera to publicise the charity she set up to deal with these crimes. In 21st-century Britain, there are still things being done to women that seem positively medieval. It’s also a tale of how no matter what your parents do to push you away, they’re still your mum and dad and that’s such a fundamental connection that you can’t just leave it behind you. i have nothing much to say of this book apart from it was just okay. i believe this is bergstrom’s debut so it is completely understandable. it’s a normal reaction to me almost. Brené Brown catalogues women’s experiences of shame with remarkable sharpness and insight, explaining how modern day culture makes us all vulnerable to shame – the ever omnipresent narratives of society that dictate how women should behave, live and operate.