It is very unlikely he will safeword. Most disciplinary wives are too gentle in their spankings. It took Mrs. Lion a long time to get bold enough to make Lion’s spankings memorable enough to deter him successfully. how do I know when my spankings are memorable enough? It turned out that while we’d been away from the house, the children from the visiting family had discovered a spanking paddle in the basement. Apparently they had been given permission to look through some old boxes for some reason and had found the paddle. Her Husband is a Boy wrapped up in Mens Clothing and sometimes he need that structure that Mom brought to the family and Home! I could really use your insight on the concept of maintenance spanking. In the last week or so, my husband has wanted to explore having a female-led relationship. So while he has always done the cooking, and is a great co-parent two our two children, he's now taking on the majority of the rest of the housework. I'm all in favor of this, as he hasn't always done half of the housework, and our new arrangement has allowed me to be a more present parent and pursue more creative pursuits. In addition to parenting, I am now managing our finances, which I don't mind doing. He has recently wanted to try " maintenance spanking" as a way to reinforce his submission. We've done spanking as a part of sex for awhile, both with my hand and with a flogger, and we enjoy other Dom/sub activities like pegging. But I honestly don't "get" the spanking thing apart from sex. When should it happen? When is it supposed to end? Why are we doing this? We tried last night and decided on a certain number of lashes. He asked afterward if I felt powerful and the answer was NO. I didn't get anything from this and I don't understand it. The whole thing felt very ceremonial and I am not sure what to do with that level of formality. Anything I can do to get in this headspace? Am I thinking about this wrong? It’s a good idea to regularly remind him that he has a safeword (we use “red”). Make sure he understands that the spanking stops immediately if he uses it. He has to tell you what’s wrong. Attend to the problem. Let him know that he still owes you a spanking which you will deliver at a later time.

I saw David for his 2nd punishment spanking for drinking and driving. You can read his version of the session in my testimonials section in my members area. His girlfriend Lindsay also wrote a report. I caned David 16 times – something he’d never had done before and surely doesn’t want again. Why do you ask? Did you want to try? The paddle’s probably still on the table in the basement.” I said ‘yes please’ as enthusiastically as possible! Val laughed and said: “Come on, then!” We finally got home, I carried the bags inside then came out to say good bye to my sister in law and I apologized for speaking rudely. After that my wife told me to go inside and wait for her. I was near the front door as my wife was saying goodbye to her sister then said I'm going to go get him in line." The blog section will be added to most often. This will cover some of the topics above but also provide accounts of actual spankings that my husband has received from me. Some blogs are written by me and some are written by my husband. This should provide a good perspective from both a top (spanker) and bottom (spankee). The spanking itself doesn't turn me on, but watching him enjoy it, and knowing that I am giving him that pleasure turns me on. I just don't know what to do with it when it is not part of sex. — TFYHEven though the spankings I give him are very real and very painful (even to the point of tears), he has told me on many occasions that he appreciates me holding him accountable in this way. He has told me that he feels no resentment for the spanking as it was earned and that he feels a sense of calm and balance afterwards. Side note…after a good spanking…he is a model citizen around here – very eager to please, in a great mood and very productive! Steven was the last visitor and he brought a letter from Nancy telling me about his behavior over the summer. Many men and some women believe that administering a spanking should be sexually arousing or at least be fun. Most disciplinary wives don’t enjoy punishing their husbands. In fact, when they first start out, many feel terrible for hurting someone they love. Mrs. Lion felt that way. She continued because she knew is is what Lion wants. mother watched as my wife told me to lie across the padded cedar chest. I was testy and said I would not

I got an extra long hug from Val when we left. She whispered in my ear: “I’m gonna miss you the most.” I must say, the feeling was mutual – although I did miss the Mustang too. I know myself well enough to admit that the childishly impulsive and also mischievous side of my personality makes it necessary that I am disciplined by my husband and that he is in charge and sets the necessary boundaries gives me a freedom from responsibilities and worries I only insufficiently meet and it provides me with a feeling of basic safety that I can rely on his caring headship and can trust that he keeps and eye on me and keeps me in line. A play spanking hurts and can be as severe as a punishment, but it is administered with a slow buildup to allow Lion’s body to develop the endorphins (brain hormones) that convert the pain to pleasure.When the Asst Head Mistress came in the boys stepped out of their trousers and bent across a room length table. The girls lifted their skirts and did the same. She walked down the row reading each infraction. She decided if you were to be spanked over your underwear or bare. If bare she had you stand and step out of the underwear and bend over again. We stayed that way not looking until the headmistress entered. Two more to go. I’ll lay these on a bit, honey, OK?” What? Lay them on! What the hell were the other six? Fun pats? Spanking your husband is part of being a disciplinary wife. It is a skill you develop as you learn to help your husband become a better man. As you perfect this skill, he benefits by becoming happier and more secure.